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Accountability…Do You Have It?

Posted By: Jason on April 16, 2009 in Favorites, Ideas, Purity, Relationships, Spirituality - Comments: No Comments »

By Jason Nabb

Recently, I had an experience that shook me up quite a bit. I am a huge advocate for purity as it has been a struggle of mine. I have Covenant Eyes installed on my office computers and home computers as well. Covenant Eyes is software that reports all of your online activity to “Accountability Partners” that you designate. An email report is generated at regular intervals that allows your APs to check up on your online activity. Very detailed reports. Well, one of my APs today sent me an alarming, yet open-minded email making me aware of some indecent searches carried out on one of my computers.

online-accountability I revealed this discovery to my wife immediately and began to investigate. Several searches were made on lewd terms on one of my computers. It was horrifying! I felt a suspectful eye on me immediately. It wasn’t from my wife or my APs. It was from God. I know I didn’t committ those searches. It turns out they were made by malicious spyware I am in the process of removing from my computer with a scan as we speak. However, it really made me think. What if there was software that reported on my thought life activity? What if detailed reports were generated on everything I let into my brain? I hardly think I could blame “malicious spyware” for what those reports may say.

I would like to encourage you to consider the impact your thought life and struggles have on your wife and children. You might think that your struggles with pornography or online gambling don’t have any bearing on your kids because they “don’t know.” But the fact is, these things that you let occupy your mind leave little room for God or your family. Your God, your marriage relationship and your children need to have your thoughts if they are to have your heart as well.

TIPS:

Put a photo of your wife and/or kids on your computer desktop. Get online accountability. Never, ever, ever delete your history. Talk about it with your wife and get some accountability partners that you can relate to in terms of this struggle. The book “Every Man’s Battle” by Stephen Arteburn has been a great resource for me. If you need help with sexual addiction or would like more information, a great resource is www.joedallas.com. I pray that you seek help if you should need it. And if you don’t think you need it, please re-examine your thought life and make sure, as we deceive ourselves first. God bless.

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